Do You Need To Impress Others?

Do you ever find yourself needing to prop up your self esteem by making overtures to yourself when in the company of others?
Do you feel driven by an ever present force to make sure that others like you or think well of you? Do you ever feel insecure when you are left out of things and try to go the extra mile to try to be accepted by others?

Well if any of these describe how you find yourself feeling or behaving then your life is likely being controlled by the “need to impress others”.

What is this need and how healthy is for you to be entertaining it in your life?

Well, by definition the word “need” implies that a state of lack is inherently present. So if there is say, a “need for X” then this implies that “X” is lacking. Following this simple logic then, if there is a “need to impress” it is because one is feeling, deep down within themselves, unimpressive!

Feeling unimpressive usually is associated with feelings of low self esteem, low self worth, low self confidence, feelings of inadequacy, sadness, depression, helplessness, powerlessness, feelings and fears of being alone and so on.

These underlying feelings are often so intolerable that the individual who harbors them will do just about anything to try to “quench” them or “distract” one’s self from them. They start to “believe” that the answer to dealing with such low feelings in one’s self comes out of having others accept, appreciate and love them. As if the answer to all one’s difficulties is the responsibility of someone else, not them.

As a result they find themselves expending inordinate amounts of time, energy and money trying to unknowingly seduce and/or manipulate (because this is what it means to get others to like or accept you) others into getting them to validate and appreciate them.

What is not recognized however, as all of this is going on, is how it feels to being doing any of this seducing and manipulating. If you stop and reflect on how this makes one feel it becomes clear that it starts to make one feel sleazy, needy, dependent, weak, inadequate, useless, worthless, ashamed, embarrassed, perhaps even loathsome towards one’s self.

So, in summary, the very act of trying to impress actually causes one to feel lousy NOT better about themselves! Also the longer they engage such activity the more inadequate and lousy they will feel. In other words these deep feelings will become even more uncomfortable and this will certainly, if one allows it, cause the behaviors associated with the need to impress to escalate.

So what happens is that the individual finds themselves teetering on the edge of a negative life energy consuming vortex that swallows them up and ultimately ruins their life.

There is a way to get off this treadmill however. The key is to uproot the very reasons that feed the feelings of inadequacy in the first place. Such feelings originally were conditioned in you as a result of early life experiences. Unless these are released from your mind and body you will find yourself being a victim to them.

And as we all know feeling like a victim is one of the main reasons for feeling inadequate.

So if you’d like an introductory consultation to help you reclaim your self esteem, your self worth, your sense of inner peace and contentment, and the feeling that you are genuinely OK then kindly visit the web link below.

Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called “Spirituality And Science” (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of “Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation” (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being.

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